I thought it might be fun to collect some of the famous posts from the days of Bianca and DCJ... and maybe SFF, who knows.
One of my top 10 favorite posters would have to be TBill, especially when Heather was in the chatroom at the same time. Bill and I actually became long-distance friends, in a very non-forum kind of way. He loved all things about Asian culture and he actually ran a tourist service for several Asian country travel plans. He knew a lot about food (one of my weaknesses). We even discussed the logistics of getting me and Cath on one of his tours. Sadly, I am almost 100% sure he has passed away. He wasn't all that healthy, and getting up in years. I had emailed his wife a few times and got no answer, and his travel agency is long gone. I won't post his personal info here... name, address, all that... I have it, and it's been not much help.
Post by MeninMenstruation on Jul 1, 2015 21:33:03 GMT -5
My fondest memory of Bianca's is finding out that there are 'people like me' out there! I will admit that when I was lurking at Bianca's right from the start it was WELL before I was actually legally allowed to be exposed to 'adult content'... but hey, it didn't stop me and has fostered my love of menstruation. After some years when I was 18+ I finally made myself known, haha.
I was never at Bianca's, but I distinctly remember posting (usually as an anon) at DCJ and at SFF under the same handle I have here. I enjoyed sharing links to some pad pictures I'd taken and to seeing links shared by various members. One of my favorites was a set of pad photos posted by Weiler, but I also remember Crossdresser teaching me how to read Kimberly-Clark's factory codes on some older Kotex pads that I'd found. (I wish he was still around, I could use help deciphering more of those codes.) DCJ and SFF were always fun, and I'm hoping that this place will be as well.
Eighteen years or so (for me) is a long time. I haven't been around lately because Karel set the timeout to three months on SFF. I was locked out and couldn't get into a lot of the old email accounts I set up (I was paranoid back in those days). I never did re-register.
Like roadfood.com, everything that could be said already has been said. The only thing noteworthy now is changes.
For some reason, I now seem to remember more about the housekeeping issues and drama associated with the various forum platforms than the actual content. There were always the spammers, the cranks, the imposters, the bullies, the flooders. Like the clockwise purge of police corruption every 25 years in NYC, it seems every 5 years or so the website tanked and a new forum had to be set up. As time went on, the "heat" no longer went after sites discussing sensitive subjects. And the number of cranks kept decreasing with each new forum platform.
About content, I always had an erotic curiosity about menstruation but no where (as far as I know) was it discussed. Until Bianca'a. What I found most useful were descriptions by women about WHAT IT'S REALLY LIKE. Which culminated in me once attending a 5-day crossdresser's convention fully dressed, it you get what I mean. Funny, a lot of those conventions have also gone by the wayside and those remaining are now more geared towards meeting the needs of transsexuals.
Towards the end of the run at SFF, there were very few posts or questions posed by new people. While I had no way of knowing how many lurkers there were, my guess is that this formerly taboo subject was now more in the open.
Eighteen years ago, I would have never guessed that gay marriage would ever be legal nationwide. I also didn't think that I would be still coming around here.
I remember having quite a long correspondence with David Austin, a teacher and researcher who had written many papers on menstruation and how it was depicted in society over the years. His interest in the Forum really centered on why anyone would want to put an erotic spin on the subject, and he sure helped me, because I had the same questions! Over about 4 years I think we both learned a lot.
Then there was Harry Finley, owner and director of the famous Museum of Menstruation. We wrote back and forth a few times. I got the feeling he was a little leery of our group. He told me more than once that his interest was purely about the products, a sort of physical journal of humanity's accommodation of nature's rotten design. He did visit the Forum many times, I know this because when I asked him to weigh in on something posted, he always would.
Spammers and cranks.... gosh, so many .... at Bianca we had a real wacko who kept registering over and over so he could flood all the posts off the screen with his nonsense. It became a daily chore for me to delete his posts, only to see him do it again 10 minutes later. Funny story: A few times, we were actually on the Forum at the same time. Me deleting posts, and him posting... and because there is about a 3 second delay between hitting "post" and the post actually showing up on the Forum, I was able to delete them before he saw them on screen. He got more and more frustrated that his posts weren't showing up, and finally figured out that I was on-line. That set him off with some of the most violent and inhuman things I have ever seen someone write. He was a sick person. I traced him (with some help) to Australia, and had his internet service cut off. Of course he found a new service, but by then I knew his location well enough and had that service cut off as well. This happened 5 times in a matter of two or three months. Having exhausted all the local providers, he disappeared for quite a while, but lo and behold he did finally return - to a different Forum, where he harassed them about as badly as he had harassed us. He left us alone. And some time later, he actually joined the forum and sent me quite a lengthy, and I have to believe, heartfelt apology. What that was all about I will never know. I never took it personally and I guess somehow he knew that nothing he did was going to affect the Forum anyhow. I dunno.
So yeah, I have some bad memories, but mostly good. Bianca was a zoo, brought down by their own belief in a "hands-off" management style. You really can't do that. DotComJunkies was a good host, enough controls to keep things tidy, but the owners bailed out when the costs got too high. Karel took that script and migrated us to SpamFreeForums after some aggravating issues were solved... I really thought we had a home for good. I guess if someone else owns the server, you can never really be sure of anything. But, here we are... for now.... keeping my fingers crossed!
Hello. Some of the archives are available on the Wayback Machine (good old web.archive.org), if you have the patience to click around in their interface. So if you happen to know the day of a post you're looking for, you might get lucky.
On a side note, with the various restrictions and the hosting issues, would anyone be interested in going old school and starting a Usenet group? No more worries about hosting, people can access it via Google Groups if they're not into newsreaders, and moderation is still possible. The group soc.sexuality.general still gets a few posters, we could test the waters there or I could spearhead the new group process for, say, soc.sexuality.menstruation.
Warning - posting on Usenet may induce flashbacks to 1996.
Like Crossdresser and longtimelurker, I also got locked out of SFF. My username expired, and when I tried to re-register it, I kept getting an error message - "You have exceeded your posting limit for this board"! At that point, I hadn't made any posts, so I don't know how I could have exceeded the limit.
I've been around since the days of Bianca. One thing I particularly remember was visiting the DCJ chatroom and being surprised when I got to chat to some women! In those days, almost all the posters on the board were men and I'd expected the chatroom would also be male dominated.