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Post by max23 on Feb 3, 2016 6:17:03 GMT -5
There's been a number of articles in the media recently along the lines that women shouldn't be ashamed about menstruating and shouldn't feel the need to keep it a secret. The article below suggests that it might be a while before attitudes change. Based on what she's written, it seems the female author of the article doesn't tell her husband when she has her period. So she's in an intimate relationship, but she still prefers to keep it a secret?? Anyway, here's a link to the article: www.news.com.au/lifestyle/real-life/news-life/why-are-women-still-so-embarrassed-by-this/news-story/8963743ccc2223e7f09f54ef042ced1bThat would seem strange to me, except I know a number of a couples that operate in the same way. The guy either has to guess or ask if he wants to know whether or not she's menstruating. |
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Post by kayo on Feb 15, 2016 15:42:51 GMT -5
I guess this falls under "TMI" rules sometimes. If that makes it a secret, so be it, but I really think that in any relationship there's a flexible boundary of topics. So maybe one month, periods are okay to talk about. Next month, maybe not. Sometimes when you mention something that's bothering you, it gets a response you might not expect. Like "get over it already". Or, you get WAY too much sympathy and then you feel like you're fishing for compassion when all you wanted to do was say "hey, no oral sex tonight, is that ok?". Lol.
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Post by max23 on Feb 17, 2016 3:26:49 GMT -5
Yes, I can understand that talking about it might be TMI on occasions.
I guess what I find a bit puzzling is still not mentioning it when it's relevant information. For example, in the article I referred to in my original post the author says, "My husband can usually tell what's going on thanks to my scheduled snappiness and early bedtimes but I'm even hesitant to bring him in on the real deal." Seems to me it would be kinder just to tell the poor guy it's that time of the month.
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Post by robb on Feb 20, 2016 18:42:36 GMT -5
I'm always puzzled about this sort of thing. I have been married for close to 30 years now, and those first few months there was sex everyday, period or not. I can't wrap my head around a couple living together and somehow keeping something like this a secret. For that matter I have online friends that bring up their periods in conversations informing me that they are late, early, unusually heavy, just ended, or about to start.
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Post by bouldghirl on Feb 28, 2016 11:03:38 GMT -5
I can't figure out why any couple who are intimate can't talk about periods. I accept that I am happy to discuss mine with friends (that I don't know intimately) but for a couple in a relationship not being able to discuss this - that to me is so weird.
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Post by max23 on Mar 17, 2016 10:11:26 GMT -5
I can't figure out why any couple who are intimate can't talk about periods. I accept that I am happy to discuss mine with friends (that I don't know intimately) but for a couple in a relationship not being able to discuss this - that to me is so weird. I couldn't agree more! But in further depressing news, it seems periods are still taboo worldwide and there are 5,000(!) euphemisms for menstruation: www.huffingtonpost.com.au/entry/period-taboo-survey_us_56d80c9fe4b0ffe6f8e83aad?section=australia One of these is "les Anglais ont debarqué" which apparently means "the English have landed". I've heard a few strange euphemisms for menstruation, but this one is just bizarre! |
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